Some women, like myself, choose to find a way to find peace …some way to live….figure out how to liv v v v v vv e, not merely co-exist within the perameters the marriage we promised ourselves to . Leave every time there is a problem? I thank the poster who suggested the marriagebed.com. It did list grin & bear it as an option. I like the words that the man is out of God’s will as it says in 1 Cor…. must not deny the other, except if it is concensual. ..and that only for a time… I need help to live within this. Not words that give me shame for staying!(being loyal)… I’ve done nothing wrong. (I did learn something here.. it’s not me it’s not me it’s not me…)
So back to it’s not me mantra…and give women the freedom to CHOOOOSE their OWN life, and whatever they chose, help them not suffer…we do not have to suffer, there is another way. Together, we can find peace. I am sure of it. I applaud you mothers who realize how beautiful that title is. Being a mother includes sacrifice at times. for the better good. Whatever life you chose women, you go ahead and chose that. You can be YOU. Let us help each other be OURSELVES.
OK I’ll take my own advice…I usually take care of everyone else before me, and all this ED has gotten me on antidepressants. But, the antidepressants have let me be in the same room as this husband I think is selfish, not going to help help anywhere. So, this has gotten me some peace. and not disturbed my kids home, as leaving would. When i have an hour free, instead of doing an extra load of laundry, i stop at the park, and sit there, and just …be. I take in the sparkling water, and ducks& geese… I don’t tell anyone so i don’t feel guilty, and they don’t ask more of me. Just this little moment(s) has made me happier. I am looking for what “I” like to do. I forgot. I have been so deep into making everyone in the house happy, I forgot who I even am. These are some things i am doing to get some happiness without bringing someone else into the marriage (triangle) Does anyone have any good things to do or think, for women who chose to stay? seriously.
Let’s try to support each other’s descisions here. or at least offer options. All the options.
Thanks everyone, I’d like this to be a place we can come that we have each other’s back,…. not like an episode of Bev Hills Houswives. Again, thanks.