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I did not say i was happy. Am i supposed to be happy all the time?

There are consequences to leaving, and different logistics in that realm. Leaving would get rid of not having sex, but not really, because i would still not be having sex, as i wish it to be within the confines of marriage.

I will not be happier if i leave.

I am not happy now. I seek now, how to find myself , and figure out how to seep hapiness into my life. I have been all this time making sure everyone else was happy. It is a process. i will give myself as much time as is needed . The Bible says love bears all things. We may have different beliefs.

I am trying to figure out how to bear it.

good luck to us all.

May we find warmth somewhere.

May we find it here.

admin September 26, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

Good on you for doing what is right for you

And good on those who have chosen different paths too. Staying doesn’t mean choosing to be unhappy. I think of the following:
-leaving is just swapping one set of stresses for another.
-if I decided to start a new relationship what if my new husband developed ED? Or another health problem? No guarantees about that. Do I just leave again?
-a partner is not how I need to be happy. I need to find happiness in myself first without looking for someone else to complete me. Until I have that, moving on isn’t going to bring contentment.
-if I developed health problems that interfered with my ability to have sex, how would I feel if my husband up and left?

admin September 19, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

Well ladies and gentlemen, this list helped me at a time when I needed help

For some time now, however, my husband chose to get help, and it worked better than I ever imagined.

Is it perfect? Of course not, nothing is…but at least he has been honest with me and with himself, found a urologist that is very understanding and has helped tremedously. He injects himself once a week with testosterone, it’s cheaper than anything he tried previously (very much cheaper)…and once in a while, he takes a cialis, but for the most part his night time and morning woodies are back, and we function a whole lot better.
I will say that it took years to get to this point, though. I give him a lot of credit for confronting something that made him feel less of a man. I can definitely understand not wanting to look at that.
SO, I thought I would stay on the list for a while and give some feedback to others, as in helping as I was helped. But I don’t think it’s being appreciated or taken in the right vein so I’ll bid you all farewell and good luck to you all.
First thing tomorrow when I’m not so tired I’ll figure out how to unsubscribe from the list.

Thanks again.

admin September 12, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

I was prescribed:

25 mg Imitrex tablets – 9 pills are packaged in a foil peel-off card, and there were 3 of those cards + 3 given to me in an Imitrex box.

It cost me $15 bucks! I have Blue Cross/Blue Shield of Florida. And I’m allowed 5 more refills before 12-10-14.

And this script was just happily handed over to me by my gynecologist after I said “hey, I’ve been getting migraines with my periods lately” – amazing, considering what I’ve been through with my 11yr old son for the past year…a chiropractor, 2 neuros, Luvox, Midrin, Butalbital, Ultram and finally, just before Christmas, his neuro gave him 4 sample pills of Amerge to try out.

admin September 3, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

Roll over migraines

I have come to the conclusion that migraines aren’t just sinus related or hormon related or food related with me, they are everything related! I suffer from those kinds of headaches you are describing; you medicate for one late afternoon or evening and sleep okay but in the morning another one is coming on or the opposite is more true for me; have one in the morning, medicate and have another by dinner time. My neurologist calls those roll over migraines and prescribed the newer drug Amerge which has a longer life in your body to catch roll over migraines. It is a triptan like Imitrex but works well for me.
What dosage Imitrex were you given? And how were you prescribed 30 pills at a time? I get nine per prescription with refills allowed. Those nine pills cost $150.00. What do 30 cost?

admin August 26, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

Welcome to our “family” Motherbrucker!

This is a safe place where you can let it all out and vent to your heart’s content. We all understand the overwhelming feelings you are having right now. Relax, if you can, and take what you need that is offered here, and toss out what you don’t. Each of us here is carefully walking a difficult path and we lean on each other for support and understanding….

admin August 22, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

Diabetes adds another dimension to living with ED

My ex had that too. The nerve damage that can be caused by an uncontrolled BGL is nasty. It can effect all extremities including the penis.

Is your husband’s diabetes under control? Does he take oral meds or insulin injections? How often does he test his blood? Does he eat an appropriate diet?

I don’t really understand what a “sporadic” sex life is, do you mean sex very infrequently? How often is that? I guess it just becomes a habit after a while, and some people are comfortable with that for a long, long time. I have know couples who have not had sex for thirty years, and I guess that is their business. If they are happy with that.

On the other hand, it’s more common to have mismatched sex drives, usually the man wanting sex often and the woman avoiding it due to myriads of reasons from young children/working outside the home and the associated tiredness, to illness, boredom and general dissatisfaction.
I was lucky with my ex. We both had high sex drives and were both affectionate and talkative. A good combo where ED is concerned. We always slept naked with the bedroom door shut. Some people feel inhibited by young/older children and unexpected noise distractions.
My ex would lose his erection if I said I was uncomfortable with a position. Very frustrating and often led me to not say if I was uncomfortable.

Mostly we made pills/injections part of the foreplay, psyching each other up hours before we were going to bed. I have three daughters so I don’t buy the excuse about children. That is just an avoidance tactic for someone afraid of failure. With love and affection that can be overcome by regular planned intimacy and some successful treamtnet for the ED look at this great pharmacy. We resisted the injections at first (needle in the penis? very appealing – NOT) but in the end tried them in desperation. The results were nothing short of spectacular so of course I thoroughly recommend them!! I used to inject my husband and it was easy once I got it right a couple of times. Some men prefer to do it themselves.

Exploring options can be exciting and can restore some lost intimacy if you are both open to it. Having some designated time alone can be therapeutic to re establishing some lovin’.

Your friend who was funny about the bed wetting needs to grow up. I hope neither she nor her husband have any similar health issues! With 50% of men over 50 have ED, the chances of her having to deal with it eventually are quite high. God help her!

You have found grown up friends now who can talk about any issue without blushing and with a lot of experience behind them! Maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age ;)

all the best
Lynn

admin August 21, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

I feel absolutely lost – I’m new to all of this

I have no clue about pumps or Free T’s or  anything about anything. All I know is that my husband now has ED as a result of Type 2  diabetes. We’ve had a sporatic sex life over the years, so I didn’t realize how severe it’s been  for him. He’s tried all kinds of medications but then said he never put the moves on me  because of my teenage daughter being home or this or that. Now I realize he’s desperate. I  thought he was just jerking off at the internet or something. I didn’t think that we haven’t  had sex in months and months because he is unable to get an erection.

I have no one to talk to about this at all. The one friend I should be able to talk to has let me  know it made her uncomfortable when I told her that my husband was wetting the bed. This  was right before the diabetes diagnosis. I was terrified it was prostate cancer. My friend’s  father is a doctor, so I thought it was ok to level with her. Well I’ll be damned if I’m going to  tell her that he’s impotent now.

I feel like my entire sex life is over. I occasionally masturbate with a vibrator alone. The  thought that this is my future has become overwhelmingly depressing to me.

I’m very relieved to start learning more from you. Thanks.

Have you tried joint counseling?

When a man doesn’t have a strong desire he may not have the stamina for intercourse but your doing oral on him may be ok. He may not stay erect enough for intercourse. I have found that after taking antidepressants I have gotten some of my libido back, but I still don’t have a strong enough erection to have intercourse. And I don’t even want to use viagra (figure that one out?).
I have been going to therapy for myself to see if it’s mental or physical (my testosterone is normal 540). We now have started joint counseling to see if we can communicate better (we can’t seem to talk about it).
My SO doesn’t seem interested in sex and we have been without it for many years.

We love each other and get along great (good roomies)but I don’t wish to live like this. Funny but I’m the one that doesn’t have the libido…but if viagra works (and it does to masturbate) why don’t I use it with her? That’s what I’m trying to resolve in counseling.

The best way to find a therapist, IMO, is word-of-mouth

I’d also try  the local County Mental Health bureau for a referral. How about your  family doctor?

What kind of support group are you looking for? In the local section of  my Sunday paper, they list local support groups, like AA, Alanon, etc.
Does your newspaper do the same? If the support you’re seeking is  relevant to our topic, I can honestly say that I haven’t ever heard of  any group dealing with this subject matter that you can physically  attend–this doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

On this group, we have many members who have “called it quits” and have  started new lives. Perhaps we can help you here…the group doesn’t  really focus on solving your man’s ED difficulties; if anything, it has  more to do with supporting members with the life choices that ED brings.

My prescription plan

(I work for a state government) covers ED treatments but only with limitations. They will give me only 4 tablets per month. I am fairly fortunate in that I use Viagra and only need a dose of 25mg so my doc prescribes 100mg tabs and I cut them in quarters. That gives me 16 possible opportunities for sex per month.

My question is: if you have a prescription plan, does it cover these meds and if it does, are there limitations?

My plan covers birth control pills and obviously, women get a full month’s supply. So they can have sex every day of the month if they want to. I feel this is discriminatory against men. Why are they imposing limits on the number of times a month I have sex. Their intent is that I only have sex 4 times per month and if I needed the full 100mg dose, that’s all I would be able to have. I would have no problem if they didn’t cover ED meds if they also didn’t cover birth control pills. Talk about a double standard?

In most women, birth control pills are not for treating a medical ailment (although sometimes they are precribed for medical problems), they are for preventing pregnancy. ED treatments are for a real medical ailment and yet they look at men having sex as an option, and too bad if he can’t, he can live without it.

I am sick of people not taking ED seriously and not treating it as the real medical problem it is and looking at a healthy sex life as something a man can live without. Because of ED I am also being treated for depression. My plan covers all those drugs completely. Ironic, isn’t it?

Anybody else as mad as I am? Anybody have any suggestions?

The worst part is they know the average man won’t sue because of the embarrassment he would feel being thrust into the limelight. I’ve even contacted the American Civil Liberties Union and they told me “ED is not an issue of interest.” If I had a vagina instead of a penis (working or not) they would sure as hell be interested in my concerns. And believe me, I don’t hate women, I love them. I only hate the inequity between men and women in matters like these. I can really understand how women feel when they don’t get paid the same wage as men for the same job.

Hope you are still around.

Can’t understand why no one offered some advice. There are several causes of ED. One is psychological and when you have trouble you can’t get past the first erection because of fear or something close to it.

Have you tried any of the pills and what was the result?

The pills work very well for many when the nerves essential forerections are still functioning very well.

Diabetes can bring ED due to nerve damage and the pills will only work for a while.

Once the nerves go bad then trimix or caverject are the best alternatives. I am 75 and trimix still works like magic giving me a very firm erection that lasts for more than an hour. This works on smooth muscles that controls the blood flow into and out of the penis.

As you do have erections at night, you do not have any leakage problems which are related to damage to the blood supply.

In your society there must be urologists that treat ED. Ask for an appointment after you find out he provides injection therapy. Stabbing yourself with a syringe will be easy after you see the sample erection he gives you. The side of the penis is not as tender as you expect.

I also receive testosterone replacement therapy as my T levels were down when I turned 60 and had only one functioning testicle. This was 1991 before pills for ED. The 20 75 mg hormone pellets were installed under the skin on my back hip below my belt and last for 4 months, now i can order in nfsno.org (canadian pharmacy), I immediately felt better and had more stamina and mental agility. There was a temporary improvement in erections which faded back to my normal ED problem after the T level stabilized at the new high level. I thought I would get that back with the next set of pellets but was told it is due to a surge of T or a ramping up of the T level and goes away after a few weeks. Do not expect your ED to be cured, but in your case your problem could be low T levels.

It is tough to find an endocrinologist that treats andropause. They are scarce. My doctor, Dr. Gambrell died in June and his partner, Dr. Natrajan, in Augusta GA will take me as his patient.

Viagra?

My urologist prescribed viagra for me on a medical problem. He also gave me some samples which I just noticed that they are out of date, does viagra have a short/long shelf life?

I had a radical prostatectomy (open) in October 2007

I finally started injections today. 2 mcg of protaglandin-E (Caverject / alprostadil / Edex ) was enough for 45 minutes of “serious” erection, which was fully down in 2 hours. After 11 months of floppiness, it felt “great”. I used a BD “UltraFine” needle, 30 gauge, 8mm (5/16″) long — no pain.

I was slightly sore, and I don’t know if it was from the drug, or the erection itself. I’ll work with my doctor on that — she knows what she’s doing. The current rehab plan is:

. . even days — 100 mg Viagra (no response, yet)

. . odd days — injection

Thanks to all the list members who have helped me along. The online community has been invaluable to me over the past year.

Are there lymph glands in the penis???

I do not have a discharge, and does not appear to be an infection. This morning it looked a lot better, so of course we made love. Now tonight it looks so horrible.  A little clarification. I wrote we had a lot of sex. Actually we tried to have sex once, the rest of the time we both just  helped each other have orgasms. I have not been to a Dr. as I am out of the country. I will be back in the states late Monday night.

If things are not cleared up, to be sure I will make a bee line to an emergency center from the airport.

I really understand your

concern with your problem, but I would sincerely advise against any more self-medication. Try to stay calm until you see your doctor – we are capable of imaging the most catastrophic things that turn out to be simple. I’ve been there, done that.

admin February 28, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

High cholesterol foods should not cause your feet

and ankles to swell. If your genitals (penis and scrotum) are swelling (and “actually leaking fluid”), you may well have heart and/or kidney failure. Are you short of breath? You need to see a physician. Sodium (as in salt) can cause you to retain fluids, but edema (especially anywhere other than your ankles) is a sign warranting a prompt visit to a competent medical doctor.

admin February 7, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

I actually had what I believed

to be a respectable woody going on,  and thought I would go for it!!! So, along with a little petro gel in gel form, tried to force it in. Of course she was really tight, and it wouldnt go. Two or three attempts were made. Is it possible I ruptured the inner chambers that usually fill with blood and give a erection???

Is it possible to have an infection with out drainage or pain in urination??? Is there an infection that is charateristic of a swollen unit???

I am not due to the states until Monday Night, late. At this point I do not care how I fix it, and in desperation bought some 2nd or third generation Amoxicyllin.
I am not likely to leave the states again, is to scary!!!

admin January 28, 2014 Leave A Comment Permalink

Did you ever find out if the cathader was partly the cause of your ED?

Thats how it started with me, I was loosing it during fore play. Do the meds work for you?
When I had kidney trouble last year, the dr had to place a stent in the urethrea, and with the bladder scopes, I have experienced some really awful pain with these procedures. I think that is one of my biggest problems is pain, I have chronic pain which never ends 24/7.

I’m 48 and have trouble keeping it up

When I first start it gets hard but start to lose it while we are having floor play. The Doc put me on ED meds. But I did not have this trouble till I had a cathader when I was in the hospital, and had a blood clot go into my lung. Now that I have no galblader and the rest of the above I have been having trouble and with sex drive just not as storng as it was before.

admin February 5, 2013 Leave A Comment Permalink